Dear ppatin,
It is wonderful you are taking the initiative and being courteous toward the woman you are dating. A speck of gluten makes me violently ill. Even if people do not get gastrointestinal symptoms, it can be damaging to their body. Eventually, the end up with diabetes, a destroyed digestive tract, thyroid trouble, possibly even intestinal cancer!

This is a potentially deadly illness. The good news is, diet is the fix. However, it can be tricky.
You cannot use any utensils or pans that you have cooked gluten containing food in unless they are thoroughly cleaned and not scratched Teflon. My idea is, you are likely on a budget, as I am. So, getting just some basics is smart. I would go with either a wok (very versatile) or a large skillet/frying pan. A spatula, a spoon (metal or plastic or wood is your choice!) All of these should be new. Also, a mixing bowl is a good idea. Keep them in an airtight container to use when she is coming. That way, they cannot be contaminated by flour and crumbs.

Something else you could do instead is just get the utensils and bowl, and then just use aluminum disposable pans when you cook for her. Aluminum poisoning is a concern for me, though. I watch that when possible! Oh, yeah, and watch where you lay the soda bottle cap. I got glutened yesturday because my parents are inconsiderate and not gluten-free, and my father lays the soda bottle cap down wherever. I was fine until I drank the soda. I drank it when it was first opened (by me) and I was fine!) Having separate condiments is a good idea as well. If you use the same ketchup on her fries as you used on a sandwich, it could make her sick.
I have a list that should really help. This is overwhelming. I went through this with myself six months ago. You spend most of your day cooking and cleaning obsessively. The rest you are on the phone with reps from companies trying to find out what is safe. I decided to save you the trouble!
1. There are a number of things in the regular grocery that are safe. Some things are labeled already. Wal-Mart's Great Value brand has numerous things you can eat.
2. For the love of God use Coupons on items you are allowed to eat. People can get them and print them out online even. Call some of the local stores and ask if they accept online coupons.
3. Check the ads online and in the newspaper. You would be surprised how many people do not do this.
4. Some items like rice flour and rice noodles are safe to buy at the Chinese or oriental market. The merchants are more than happy to help you if you cannot read the label.
Now, here is my list of great things to get you started:
Condiments:
Smart Balance Margerine
Crisco Shortening
Crisco Oil
Pompeiian Olive Oil
Great Value soy sauce
Heinz Ketchup
Lea & Perrins Worchestershire Sauce
Sweet Baby Ray's Barbecue Sauce
Kraft French Fat-Free Salad Dressing
Kraft Thousand Island Fat-Free Salad Dressing
Pace Picante Sauce
Ortega Salsa
All Classico Red and White sauces
All Jif Peanut Butters including Smooth Sensations
Welch's Grape Jelly
Cool Whip
Philadelphia Cream Cheese
Miracle Whip
Daisy Sour Cream (fat-free, low-fat, regular)
Snack Foods:
Utz Potato Chips (Found at Sam's Wholesale Club)
Lay's Stax (all others are not made in a dedicated facility, cc is possible)
Cool Ranch Doritos (Nacho cheese has gluten)
Act II Microwave Popcorn
Cheetos
3 Musketeers candy bars
Butterfinger candy bars
Reese's Peanut Butter Cups
Meat and Protein :
Eggs
Great Value Frozen Boneless, Skinless Chicken Breasts
Extra Lean ground beef
Carl Buddig lunchmeats all are safe
Johnsonville Original Bratwursts
Kraft Cheese Shredded or sliced (Kraft is a great company, they never hide gluten in their labels. If it does not say wheat, barley, oats or rye, then it is not in there!)
Cereals:
Cocoa Pebbles
Fruity Pebbles
Dora The Explorer Cinnamon Stars
Seasonings:
Durkee Cinnamon-ground
Durkee Ginger-ground
Durkee Chili powder
Durkee Vanilla Extract (in fact, all of their liquid flavorings, food colorings, and extracts are g.f.)
Emeril's Essence - Asian, Italian
Ortega Taco Seasoning (In fact, since they are under a very strict labeling policy, all of their products are gluten free at this time)
Miscellaneous:
Ortega Taco Shells
Starkist or Great Value Tuna
Butter Buds
Great Value Soy Milk
Lettuce
Tomatoes
Apples
Pears
Carrots
Great Value Canned Fruits and Vegetables
Del Monte Canned Fruits and Vegetables
Ore Ida Tater Tots
Ore Ida French Fries
Hormel Chili
Hormel Spam
Hormel Turkey Spam (Oven Roasted and Smoked)
Jimmy Dean Fresh Taste Fast Sausage (links, rolls, and patties)
Plumrose Bacon
PAM Non-Stick Cooking Spray (all except for PAM for baking; it has flour)
Beverages:
Coca-Cola (Diet, Regular, Vanilla, Caffeine Free)
Diet Rite
Folgers Coffees (all including Cappuccinos)
Luzianne Tea (We get decaf)
Arizona Teas
Ocean Spray Cranberry Juice
Some Household Items that are safe include:
Cascade Dishwashing Detergent
All Laundry Detergent
Wisk Laundry Detergent
Dawn Dish Soap (all including the Power Disolver)
SoftSoap Hand Soaps
Murphy's Oil Soap
Hygiene, Cosmetics, and Beauty Items:
Dove Soaps, Shampoos, Conditioners, Lotions, and Styling Aids (Will clearly label gluten if present)
Crest Whitening Expressions Toothpastes
Colgate Toothpastes
Suave Soaps, Shampoos, Conditioners, Lotions, and Styling Aids (Will clearly label gluten if present)
Maybelline (Gluten is clearly labeled when present)
CoverGirl (Gluten is clearly labeled when present)
Wet'n Wild (All except for one of the mascaras)
Olay Quench Body Lotion
Crest WhiteStrips
Colgate Simply White
I hope this helps!
Sincerely,
NoGluGirl
P.S. To make it easier to distinguish between her stuff and yours, get those little colored dot stickers in the stationary department of the store. You can put dots on her stuff to remind you not to use it to avoid cc!