QUOTE (babinsky @ Oct 31 2007, 03:08 PM)

Any one in the LA, San Bernardino, Orange County area? I was diagnosed about a week ago and feel like everyone around me is more uncomfortabe with this than me! Had to make my first call today to a friend to find out how she was preparing the food this evening...we have gone to these friends house every year on Halloween for the last 8 years.
I finally told her I would bring my own stuff tonight and then offered to also bring anything else she may need. She told me not to worry about it since I "can't eat anything anyway" I am not sure people who have never heard of this understand it.....I have tried to explain it but fear I am not doing such a good job. Please tell me this gets less uncomfortable for everyone.
I'm pretty new at this too, and I don't know that it'd be better in any other region of the country, but I agree, it's frustrating that not too many people in SoCal seem to be really familiar with celiac, etc. It's rough that we not only deal with managing our own choices and diet issues, but also end up trying to deal with others' reactions to it... I've been fussed over excessively, treated like I'm making it all up to be difficult, and treated like I really must have an eating disorder because I won't eat the entrees served at a staff lunch buffet... Sigh.
So far I've tried to calm other people's anxieties as best I can -- I tend to assume others' annoyance (if any) comes from a sequence (inside the other's head) of "I don't know how to prepare food for this crazy/complex problem - I'm suddenly feeling all pressured and helpless and stressed out by it - now I'm annoyed with YOU for making me feel all insecure and stressed out!" So I try to just reassure people: "It's OK, I'm getting pretty good at managing the diet, even though it can be kind of tricky. I don't mind at ALL just having this one entree that I know works for me, and what I REALLY want to do is eat dinner with you and enjoy your company, so please don't worry too much about the food aspect of things. I'll eat my specialized entree, everyone else can have the other stuff, and the main point is, we'll have fun!" (or something like that)
But it is a hassle. Sigh.