is there a website or resource somewhere that lists every single restaurant that is gluten free in the US? thx

A lot of restaurants will have a gluten free/wheat free list on their website (such as chilis).
Here is a link that I have for basic stuff but it has a link on the left side for restaurants: http://www.venturaceliac.org/glutenfree-basics.htm
Here is a link that has a book http://www.dfwceliac.org/html/restaurants.html (I do know know if the book is good or not, I have this site for other things it has on it).

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